I Can Help You with Your Grief

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Jeannine Bokor, Grief Therapist

When loss happens everything changes. I have experienced deep grief and loss. I have walked this path. I will take it with you. It is so important that grief is witnessed, expressed and attended to.

Grief Is…

Fragile and vulnerable

Overwhelming

Grief exposes and opens us

Grief can bring us to our knees

GRIEF can leave us…

Confused

Numb

Isolated

Exhausted

Questioning Everything

Angry…AND Sometimes Curious!

Grieving is…

A landscape that is so varied and vast

Very personal, and can change over time

Grief is part of the ebb and flow of life 

Meet Jeannine

Jeannine  meets you in the raw, sacred space of grief—when loss changes everything. My approach is inclusive and holistic, integrating talk therapy, creative expression, mindfulness, and family systems work.

Within the quiet space where profound loss meets an open heart, where grief and love live together, is the core of how Jeannine works with others. She has walked this path both as a professional and as a fellow griever, and she will walk it with you through the confusing wilderness of grief. I am a Certified Grief Specialist, Marriage and Family Therapist  and Non Profit Consultant.

This isn't about "moving on.” It is about moving through grief—integrating your story of loss into who you are and who you are becoming, at your own pace, in your own way. Grief is not a problem to solve. It is about loving someone so deeply and now grieving them so deeply.

At the heart of my  work is an unshakeable belief in our ability to find a way—to 'Go Forth'. Not by leaving the pain, loss, or grief behind, but by changing the way we carry it and what we do with it.


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Experienced In

Sudden and Traumatic Death

When death occurs unexpectedly through accidents, violence, or sudden medical events, the survivors who are left grappling with it all often experience shock, disbelief, and intensified grief. This grief often requires additional support to process the trauma alongside the loss.

Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory grief occurs when someone begins grieving before an expected loss, such as when a loved one has a terminal illness. This grief is often times challenging. It allows for some preparation and planning, though it can be emotionally exhausting and is ongoing. It does not at all diminish the pain and grief after the actual death occurs.

Pet Loss Grief

The death of a beloved pet can be a deep and profound loss. It is not just the absence of their physical presence that hurts - it is the quiet space they once filled. The sound of their paws, their bark, and the greeting at the door, tails wagging. Our pets are cherished family members who provide unconditional love, companionship and comfort everyday. The bond between humans and their animals is deeply meaningful and is the grief. No one understands this pain like another dog lover. It is raw and deep. I know the deep bond, connection and love and the loss and grief.

Pregnancy Loss

Miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss and IVF grief are devastating experiences that involve many layers and levels of grief and loss. These losses can feel isolating and may be invisible to others. Sometimes met with inadequate or limited support. It is often not spoken about.

Wounds and Complicated Grief

Complicated grief occurs when grief is compounded by trauma, ambivalent relationships, estrangement, old wounds surface, or circumstances arise that prevent space for grieving.

Jewish Rituals for Bereavement, Grief and Loss

Jewish tradition provides practices including sitting shiva, reciting Kaddish, and observing yearly remembrance on the Yahrzeit. These rituals create support, honor the deceased, and guide mourners on a path of mourning and honoring loved ones.

Mental Illness in the Family

When a family member struggles with mental illness, relatives often experience a form of grief related to the loss of the person they once knew or hoped they would be. This ongoing, ambiguous loss can involve cycles of hope and discouragement while managing the emotional toll of caregiving, living in uncertainty and/or estrangement.

A Buddhist Perspective for Grieving

Buddhist teachings approach grief through understanding impermanence and the nature of attachment, encouraging mindfulness and compassion toward one's suffering. Rather than suppressing pain, Buddhist practice involves sitting with grief, recognizing it as part of the human experience, and finding meaning through acceptance and loving-kindness.

Children and Families of Holocaust Survivors

Second and third generation descendants of Holocaust survivors often carry intergenerational trauma, experiencing anxiety, hypervigilance, or depression related to their family's history. The transmission of trauma can occur through family silence or through the weight of survival stories, affecting identity, relationships, and emotional wellbeing across generations.

Offerings

Individual Sessions

Family Grief Meetings

Phone Check- in Sessions

Groups: A Sacred Space to Grieve

Ritual Workshops Expressing Grief through:

  • Art, Poetry, Music, Writing, Cooking and Nature

In San Jose/Bay Area

Individual sessions $180 (55minutes)

Family Grief meetings $252 (75 minutes)

Groups/Workshops $36 - $54

Phone sessions $90 (25 minutes)

Some In-person or virtual - Zoom or FaceTime

Cash Pay for all Services. I do not accept insurance.

Payment: Zelle, Apple Pay before the session or group

Grief by Mark Nepo

One of the great truths in this life is that if we know love, we will know loss. The more we love, the more the loss will hurt. Yet, if we don’t love, what’s the point in being here? When we can courageously love with all our heart, the reward is that through that love we will know depths in our heart and being otherwise inaccessible. 

What a gift. Still, things will never be the same. And who or what we have loved so deeply and lost will continue to be our teacher through our grief as our heart is rearranged yet again. I think that when someone or something we love dies, we who love them are drawn to the other side. In fact, grief is how we straddle for a time between life and death, a time that can’t be measured in hours or days, a time in which the deeper truths come in like a wind through the breaks in our heart.

Resources - Books 

A Grief Observed: C.S. Lewis

Tuesdays With Morrie: Mitch Albom

Finding Meaning: David Kessler

When Bad Things Happen to Good People: Harold Kushner

Grief Works: Julia Samuel

It’s Ok That You're Not Ok: Megan Devine

Healing After Loss: Martha Whitmore Hickman

Please be Patient, I’m Grieving: Gary Roe

Grief One Day at a Time: 365 Meditations to Help You Heal After Loss: Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt

Shattered: Gary Roe

The Year of Magical Thinking: Joan Didion

The Choice: Dr. Edith Egar

Man’s Search For Meaning: Viktor Frankl

The Last Lecture: Randy Pausch

When Breath Becomes Air: Paul Kalanithi

Don't Go Where I Can't Go: Andrew Nielson

I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Brook Noel and Pamela Blair



Professional Training & Education

Certified Grief Specialist with David Kessler

Gather and Grieve, Upaya Zen Center

A Course in Miracles

Power of Attunement Program

A Year of Rumi

The Power of Mindfulness Training with Jack Kornfield

Foundations of Family Therapy, Ackerman Institute for the Family, NYC

Advanced Certificate Program in Family Counseling, Long Island University

MS, Marriage and Family Therapy, Long Island University

BS, Psychology, New York University

Current Trainings:

Qigong for Women’s Wellness

Internal Family Systems(IFS) Core Skills Certificate Training