I Can Help You with Your Grief
Jeannine Bokor, Grief Therapist
When loss happens everything changes. I have experienced deep grief and loss. I have walked this path. I will take it with you. It is so important that grief is witnessed, expressed and attended to.
Grief Is…
Fragile and vulnerable
Overwhelming
Grief exposes and opens us
Grief can bring us to our knees
GRIEF can leave us…
Confused
Numb
Isolated
Exhausted
Questioning Everything
Angry…AND Sometimes Curious!
Grieving is…
A landscape that is so varied and vast
Very personal, and can change over time
Grief is part of the ebb and flow of life
Meet Jeannine
Jeannine meets you in the raw, sacred space of grief—when loss changes everything. My approach is inclusive and holistic, integrating talk therapy, creative expression, mindfulness, and family systems work.
Within the quiet space where profound loss meets an open heart, where grief and love live together, is the core of how Jeannine works with others. She has walked this path both as a professional and as a fellow griever, and she will walk it with you through the confusing wilderness of grief. I am a Certified Grief Specialist, Marriage and Family Therapist and Non Profit Consultant.
This isn't about "moving on.” It is about moving through grief—integrating your story of loss into who you are and who you are becoming, at your own pace, in your own way. Grief is not a problem to solve. It is about loving someone so deeply and now grieving them so deeply.
At the heart of my work is an unshakeable belief in our ability to find a way—to 'Go Forth'. Not by leaving the pain, loss, or grief behind, but by changing the way we carry it and what we do with it.
Experienced In
Sudden and Traumatic Death
When death occurs unexpectedly through accidents, violence, or sudden medical events, the survivors who are left grappling with it all often experience shock, disbelief, and intensified grief. This grief often requires additional support to process the trauma alongside the loss.
Anticipatory Grief
Anticipatory grief occurs when someone begins grieving before an expected loss, such as when a loved one has a terminal illness. This grief is often times challenging. It allows for some preparation and planning, though it can be emotionally exhausting and is ongoing. It does not at all diminish the pain and grief after the actual death occurs.
Pet Loss Grief
The death of a beloved pet can be a deep and profound loss. It is not just the absence of their physical presence that hurts - it is the quiet space they once filled. The sound of their paws, their bark, and the greeting at the door, tails wagging. Our pets are cherished family members who provide unconditional love, companionship and comfort everyday. The bond between humans and their animals is deeply meaningful and is the grief. No one understands this pain like another dog lover. It is raw and deep. I know the deep bond, connection and love and the loss and grief.
Pregnancy Loss
Miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss and IVF grief are devastating experiences that involve many layers and levels of grief and loss. These losses can feel isolating and may be invisible to others. Sometimes met with inadequate or limited support. It is often not spoken about.
Wounds and Complicated Grief
Complicated grief occurs when grief is compounded by trauma, ambivalent relationships, estrangement, old wounds surface, or circumstances arise that prevent space for grieving.
Jewish Rituals for Bereavement, Grief and Loss
Jewish tradition provides practices including sitting shiva, reciting Kaddish, and observing yearly remembrance on the Yahrzeit. These rituals create support, honor the deceased, and guide mourners on a path of mourning and honoring loved ones.
Mental Illness in the Family
When a family member struggles with mental illness, relatives often experience a form of grief related to the loss of the person they once knew or hoped they would be. This ongoing, ambiguous loss can involve cycles of hope and discouragement while managing the emotional toll of caregiving, living in uncertainty and/or estrangement.
A Buddhist Perspective for Grieving
Buddhist teachings approach grief through understanding impermanence and the nature of attachment, encouraging mindfulness and compassion toward one's suffering. Rather than suppressing pain, Buddhist practice involves sitting with grief, recognizing it as part of the human experience, and finding meaning through acceptance and loving-kindness.
Children and Families of Holocaust Survivors
Second and third generation descendants of Holocaust survivors often carry intergenerational trauma, experiencing anxiety, hypervigilance, or depression related to their family's history. The transmission of trauma can occur through family silence or through the weight of survival stories, affecting identity, relationships, and emotional wellbeing across generations.
Offerings
Individual Sessions
Family Grief Meetings
Phone Check- in Sessions
Groups: A Sacred Space to Grieve
Ritual Workshops Expressing Grief through:
Art, Poetry, Music, Writing, Cooking and Nature
In San Jose/Bay Area
Individual sessions $180 (55minutes)
Family Grief meetings $252 (75 minutes)
Groups/Workshops $36 - $54
Phone sessions $90 (25 minutes)
Some In-person or virtual - Zoom or FaceTime
Cash Pay for all Services. I do not accept insurance.
Payment: Zelle, Apple Pay before the session or group
Grief by Mark Nepo
One of the great truths in this life is that if we know love, we will know loss. The more we love, the more the loss will hurt. Yet, if we don’t love, what’s the point in being here? When we can courageously love with all our heart, the reward is that through that love we will know depths in our heart and being otherwise inaccessible.
What a gift. Still, things will never be the same. And who or what we have loved so deeply and lost will continue to be our teacher through our grief as our heart is rearranged yet again. I think that when someone or something we love dies, we who love them are drawn to the other side. In fact, grief is how we straddle for a time between life and death, a time that can’t be measured in hours or days, a time in which the deeper truths come in like a wind through the breaks in our heart.
Resources - Books
A Grief Observed: C.S. Lewis
Tuesdays With Morrie: Mitch Albom
Finding Meaning: David Kessler
When Bad Things Happen to Good People: Harold Kushner
Grief Works: Julia Samuel
It’s Ok That You're Not Ok: Megan Devine
Healing After Loss: Martha Whitmore Hickman
Please be Patient, I’m Grieving: Gary Roe
Grief One Day at a Time: 365 Meditations to Help You Heal After Loss: Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt
Shattered: Gary Roe
The Year of Magical Thinking: Joan Didion
The Choice: Dr. Edith Egar
Man’s Search For Meaning: Viktor Frankl
The Last Lecture: Randy Pausch
When Breath Becomes Air: Paul Kalanithi
Don't Go Where I Can't Go: Andrew Nielson
I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Brook Noel and Pamela Blair
Professional Training & Education
Certified Grief Specialist with David Kessler
Gather and Grieve, Upaya Zen Center
A Course in Miracles
Power of Attunement Program
A Year of Rumi
The Power of Mindfulness Training with Jack Kornfield
Foundations of Family Therapy, Ackerman Institute for the Family, NYC
Advanced Certificate Program in Family Counseling, Long Island University
MS, Marriage and Family Therapy, Long Island University
BS, Psychology, New York University
Current Trainings:
Qigong for Women’s Wellness
Internal Family Systems(IFS) Core Skills Certificate Training